BOY: A Woman Listening to Men and Boys, A Book by Hathaway Barry
“A collection of vulnerable interviews of men (age 9-94 years), conducted by a woman, about what it means to be male in today's world.”
"... as astonishing as it is moving ... thoughtful and elegantly expressed..."
"An intriguing look into the male psyche"
– Kirkus Reviews
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Winner of the Living Now Book Award
Comments from Readers

"Every father should read this book." -- Marjie F.

"It will be required reading for my men's group." -- Toby C.

"I can't stop reading it. It weighs a ton. And it's not long enough!" -- Angie B.

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"It's like the I Ching, you just open to anywhere and it gives you something provocative and insightful." -- Jim G.

"It unwraps the packaging around the myth of manhood or boyhood, and offers a way for men and women to see and honor vulnerability on many levels." -- Dorothy R.

"My overwhelming sense was that you had lifted the curtain on a boy's room, on a mysterious world that my life as a daughter, wife, lover, mother and friend only hinted at. So much of what I found out slowly during my marriage about our basic incompatibility is written here. Perhaps if I had understood the creature I was actually dealing with, we might have done better?" -- Susan T.

"Wow. I have never seen anything like it. A very impactful and important collection of reflections. Very valuable for guys and gals. We will be buying a stack to give to friends. Daring to speak for guys, I say . . . THANK YOU!" -- FG.

". . . reminds me of my experience with violence when I was younger - fights at the bus stop, the rage of being assaulted for sport, the fear of being hunted by the bullies - it's awful, it's so brutal what boys go through." -- Mac R.

"It is so good to hear men's stories from their own mouths and learn what it is like for them growing up and living in this culture. I had no idea of the depth of pain and challenge that so many men have had to navigate. Having always been a feminist and carrying anger about men for much of my life, I now feel so much empathy and appreciation for those who have worked so hard at changing their attitudes and their actions toward women, toward themselves, their children, their lives." -- Kate N.

"It holds rare and valuable truths that are too often hidden, or buried deep deep down.
I teach filmmaking to college students and immediately thought of getting a few copies for some special students as a graduation present. This book will help guide, inform and inspire them. I also realized that I had to get copies for my close friends." -- Ted W.

"As for the piece you wrote about me in "BOY", I found it to be accurate, well told, and sensitive. My trust in you has been amply validated. I thank you for including my story. My wish is that it may bring hope to some of your readers."
-- John W.

"Your amazing and beautiful book reinforces for me the profound importance of listening non-judgmentally." -- Peter B.